It’s inevitable, it’s a part of life. If we don’t change, we die. That’s basis of evolution right?

So why is it so difficult for us to change or embrace change willingly?

Most change is good. It brings about new beginnings, new opportunities, opens new doors we most likely didn’t know existed…. so why do we meet it with such resistance?

I guess it’s the uncertainty and the growing pains that make the change so difficult. We know that there’s a happier, healthier, more fulfilled version of ourselves on the other side of change but for some reason staying with the version of ourselves we know today feels much more comfy. It’s like sleeping in the old T-shirt you’ve washed 100 times opposed to going to sleep in dress clothes, tight and rigid.

Comfort is the enemy of change. 

Comfort tricks our mind into believing that the change we’re trying to make is going to put us into imminent danger, basically crumble our lives the moment we make it. We give ourselves the time to let our brain trick us out of making a change and resuming into auto-pilot. Most of us are living everyday in auto-pilot without even realizing it. We wake up, get dressed, drive to work, and really have no idea how we got there. 

If you’re anything like me, you are probably thinking: “Why am I like this?” but it’s actually a part of the human brain designed to protect us from danger. Our brain is setup to meet this danger or this change that we perceive as dangerous with resistance to keep us “safe”, put us back into our comfort zones aka auto-pilot. 

One of my favorite authors, Mel Robbins, has written a book that I recommend every person to read or listen to. It’s called “The Five Second Rule”. She too was plagued with all these changes she wanted to make but continually let her brain talk her out of it, until she didn’t. She stumbled across the silliest thing ever, which ended up changing her life completely. She teaches us a technique to get outside or our heads and into action by beating our minds before they can talk us out of it- which is something that I am always in need of and I’m sure many of you are too. 

I write this today to motivate each of you who are thinking about that major change, the change you go to sleep thinking about each night and wake up each morning with it still on your mind… take the chance already. 

Date the guy, buy the car, change your job, move away. DO IT.

I guarantee you the outcome will be a lot less scary that the motion picture your brain is conjuring up.